Category Archives: Family Relationships

Giving “Thanks”

ShareThere’s something different this year about “Thanksgiving.” Today, as I reflect back on past Thanksgiving days, I realize I can’t recall a year when I spent this day with family. And when I say “family”, I mean ANY of my own family. Last year, I spent it alone in Elkhart, Kansas. Literally. I had planned on seeing my children in Tribune but, for reasons not worth mentioning, that didn’t happen. The year before I was in Liberal, Kansas and spent the day with strangers in a place I never dreamed I would be in. The year before that, as well as the one prior, well….I honestly don’t recall the last time it was a “Happy Thanksgiving.” This year, that’s changed. So today, I’m thankful in … Continue reading

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Instant Gratification & The Simple Things

Share Of the many things I’ve written to date in the first 7 months of existence of this blog and website, one that seems to keep coming to mind is this phenomenon ingrained in our culture known as “instant gratification.” One of the reasons why it resonates deeply in my soul is a result of the recent elections held in our country. It was only two short years ago that our current Commander-in-Chief was hailed as our savior but, because he and his party didn’t deliver NOW, it’s time for a change. And already, after only two short weeks since the election, I’m already hearing and reading its back to business as usual amongst our leaders of every party. It’s really quite sad when you … Continue reading

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Integrity, Vulnerability, & Perfection

ShareThe essence of integrity isn’t just speaking of moral and ethical principles. It’s putting those principles on the table for the entire world to see by virtue of your actions. A microcosm of yourself that others look at. Being brutally honest with yourself, God, and those you love and hold dearest to your heart is one thing. Doing the very same thing with everyone you know and come into contact with is entirely another matter. In the first instance, the truth you see in yourself, what you admit to God, and what you share with people you love the most, affords a level of comfort, safety, and security you simply don’t have in the latter instance. People want the truth. It’s our nature as human … Continue reading

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Why Are People Afraid to Speak About God?

ShareNormally, I don’t have an agenda when I write. I go with instincts, writing whatever comes to mind, letting my thoughts flow freely. However, on occasion a topic surfaces that deserves more than that. This one falls into that category. Recently, one of my friends and a follower on my Gusto page on facebook, where I share some of my thoughts and experiences, had this to say when I asked for a topic that people wanted to hear more about: “Why are so many people afraid to speak about GOD? Why are so many people selfish, greedy and full of gluttony?” I believe there are many reasons, but some obvious ones come to mind immediately. Before I jump into this, allow me to expand a … Continue reading

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“The Big Guy”

ShareI’m doing this one in honor of my son, Jess David Rowe, who’s known by several names in our family; Jess the Mess, Jessie, Bam Bam, and the one only he and I know of, “The Big Guy”. Why? Because from the moment he was born, everything about him was BIG, not that he was overly large at birth, he just simply packed a lot of punch in that little body when I held him for the first time. I didn’t call him that at first, it was only until he was older that this name sort of popped out of my mouth one day. Jess was born November 6th, 1994, my second and last child. For awhile that day, we weren’t sure if he … Continue reading

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Giving All You Have

Share“Gus, you always hear it spoken, relationships are 50/50…..I don’t believe it……in my eyes they are 100% / 100%….without that commitment you have nothing……think you can run with that????” That was a private message I received recently from one of the followers of Gusto on Facebook, in response to a question I posed of its readers for a topic to write about. I replied by saying that was a great one since it’s something that hits home for me. At first glance, most people would assume that topic to mean the dynamics of a relationship between two people who are intimately involved. Of course, marriage comes instantly to mind. But my mind wanders and it quickly took me to many other areas of life. When … Continue reading

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“A Change Will Do You Good”

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A Tribute to “Mom”

Share     Everyone loves their Mom and think their mother is the best Mom in the world. Of course, that isn’t true. MY MOM was the best Mom in the world! Seriously, this tribute to my Mom comes over 38 years after her death due to a tragic farm vehicle accident when I was only 13. Unlike the tribute I wrote about my Dad, who turned 80 earlier this year, my memories of my Mom aren’t nearly as extensive. But, in that short amount of time while she was with us here on Earth, she made her presence felt and her memory still lingers in the hearts of not only myself and my family, but also many who knew her. Even today, nearly FOUR decades after her death, people … Continue reading

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An Ode to “Sweet Pea”

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John Mayer – Daughters (Acoustic)

Share“To a father growing old nothing is dearer than a daughter.” ~ Euripides, Greek playwright, 480 B.C.  

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Just Be Yourself

Share“Just be yourself.” How many times have all of us heard that one? Think of the times you’ve heard it yourself; a job interview, meeting someone for the first time, a school play, or any time you’ve had to speak in front of others, regardless of who or how many people are around. I’m sure simply hearing those three words causes stomach knots for some of us. Question is, why? Why do people say that to begin with and why does it bother some of us, while there are others who have no problem with it at all? I think the answer lies not in what others think of us but how we feel about ourselves. If the foundation of our soul is based on … Continue reading

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Is It Ever Okay to Lie?

ShareYou’re walking on a sidewalk late at night. It’s dark but there are light posts to guide your way. Suddenly, out of the dark, a man comes running towards you. As he passes he screams, “Save me! He’s trying to kill me!” You look back and see him rush around a corner near a large trash bin where you think he might try to hide. Then, you wheel around because you hear the second man running towards you out of the dark and he looks menacing, like a street gang member or something. He has a gun. He rushes up to you and demands, “Where did he go?!” What do you say? Do you tell him the truth? Or do you lie? Like most people, … Continue reading

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Perfection

ShareShakespeare said, “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” He forgot to mention that I was the chief critic. I was always able to see the flaw in every person, every situation. And I was always glad to point it out, because I knew you wanted perfection, just as I did. A.A. and acceptance have taught me that there is a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best of us; that we are all children of God and we each have a right to be here. When I complain about me or about you, I am complaining about God’s handiwork. I am saying that I know better than God. What … Continue reading

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Judging Others & Keeping Emotions In Check

ShareThis topic comes to mind because of recent personal events. Rather than dive in with the details of it, I’ll try to give it a perspective that gives you something to think about and how it might apply to your own lives. When you look at others, particularly someone you’re close to such as a family member or a co-worker, who is having personal issues you have strong opinions about, what do you do? Do you rush in with advice? More importantly, if you do give advice, do you do so with the other person’s feelings first or are you giving it based on your OWN feelings? Many times, we tend toward the latter. After all, we’re human. When we see someone who is having … Continue reading

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“P L A U G E S”

ShareI remember when I first thought of this acronym. It was about a year ago when I was encountering a lot of anger and resentments from family members about past issues. I could never remember the 7 deadly sins and this acronym helps me to remember them: “PLAUGES” = Pride, Lust, Anger, Gluttony, Greed, Envy, and Sloth. I had to fudge on the U, substituting gluttony instead! When I think of those words though, there’s 2 more that I think should be included as “deadly sins”, fears and resentments. When you look at your own life, ask yourself these questions. When is it when you feel like you’re losing control over your life? What do you FEEL when you don’t have control? And what is … Continue reading

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The Power of Prayer and Doing The “Right” Thing

ShareThe power of prayer and doing the “right” thing. Two nights ago, I posted a song called “Daughters” by John Mayer on my Facebook page. Daughters is one of my favorites of his because the lyrics and the message he brings carry deep meaning for my own feelings about my daughter. But there was another reason. Shortly after I arrived in San Diego in late March of this year, I learned that John would be playing live at the Cricket Amphitheater in San Diego in August, so I quickly bought 4 tickets to go see him. At the time I bought them, I had NO idea what was about to happen several months later. In late June, my daughter told me she was planning on … Continue reading

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The Internet and Being “Connected”

Share Back in late April, I wrote a blog about the Internet, Cell Phones, iPods, Computers, and Facebook. The main thrust of that blog was how our world these days is based almost entirely on being “connected”, and how that phenomenon has led us to being “disconnected” in a way. One of the things I mentioned in that particular blog was an experience I had in the Dallas, TX. Airport in December, 2009. I was sitting patiently waiting on my flight and doing one of the things I love best: people-watching. Everyone, and I mean nearly EVERYONE, was either talking on their cell phones, texting, listening to their iPods, or simply sitting quietly working on their laptop computer, like the elderly gentleman sitting next to … Continue reading

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Psychological Phenomenon

ShareI’ve been thinking a lot about the psychology of relationships lately, especially family dynamics. When I went to SDSU in the early 80’s, I took psychology courses as electives and discovered I liked the subject so much I almost changed my major. Course, I didn’t, but did it up only a few credits short of a minor in the subject to go with my major in Business. Got all A’s too. One aspect of psychology that I find especially intriguing is one I’m sure we’re all aware of. However, for those of you that read this that don’t, I’ll do my best to explain the way I view this topic. The only way I know how to do it is to apply it to some … Continue reading

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Destiny and Coincidence

ShareThis topic comes to mind for several reasons. As you recall, on April 27th, 2010 I wrote that I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. I’m not sure if I believed this prior to two years ago but I sure as hell do now. Reason being, is there is NO WAY anyone can tell me that everything that has occurred in my life, both good and bad, but especially the good ones the past two years, came about by chance. There’s just been too many instances of this phenomenon repeating itself, that it would give anyone with a raisin for a brain reason to think twice before dispelling that belief themselves. Early last year a film came out called “Knowing.” For those who … Continue reading

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Emotions

Share I’m an emotional guy. And that’s a broad area. Most that know me well know I don’t hide how I feel and frankly, I don’t care to. I’ve learned that expressing one’s feelings, good or bad, in an open and honest way has several impacts with those I interact with. First, people can tell pretty damned easily if I’m happy, sad, upbeat, mad, melonchaly, or whatever. I say this often; what you see is what you get, I mean what I say and say what I mean, style takes a backseat to substance with me and with anyone else I choose to interact with or call a friend. But maybe more importantly, it opens me up to the judgments of others, either positively or … Continue reading

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“Less is More”

ShareThis one baffles me. I’ve heard this mentioned a lot among many people. I’ve tried to “cotton” to this concept but I just can’t seem to grasp it. Sure, I can come up with a few words here and there that sound catchy but I have to really try hard at it. Like most things I suppose, its probably better that we stick to what we know best. I feel more comfortable with the longer version, so I figure if you like something then, by definition, you’re good at it? And that’s a KEY part of this particular blog. Do what you do best is my thought. Say you have a job and you’re assigned something you really don’t like to do anyway. Chances are … Continue reading

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Rick Warren

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The Internet, Cell Phones, iPods, Computers, & Facebook

Share The past 24 hours have been some of the toughest I’ve had in a long time. Deactivating my facebook account was more difficult than I thought, probably because its been such a huge part of my life since January 2009. Its hard to describe to anyone what I mean by that. After I was released from the “Holliday Inn” in Elkhart, KS., one of the very first things I did was to find my way to a computer. Being without any kind of “connection” with the outside world, other than what silly TV programs were being played by some of my fellow “mates” and the 15 minute window I had once a week where I was allowed “visitation”, meaning a phone call or personal … Continue reading

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Things Happen for A Reason

Share There’s been some strange things that have happened since I arrived in San Diego a little over a month ago. And so many things, too! First, my kids and I arrived after leaving Elkhart together on March 15th around 2 p.m. It was a Monday. It had only been the prior Tuesday when I left work that day for the final time. I had a lot to do; sorting through “stuff”, pitching loads and loads of things into the dumpster, organizing what was left, boxing, packing, planning, it seemed I would never get it done in time. But I did. Cleaned out the ENTIRE house; four bedrooms, two bathrooms, kitchen, dining, closets, and a garage. All in only 5 days. I have no idea … Continue reading

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Expectations & Serenity

Share One of the best things anyone should remember is that your serenity is inversely proportional to your expectations. The higher your expectations of other people are, chances are that your serenity will be lower. You can watch your serenity rise when you discard your expectations. But then “rights” try to move in, and they too can force your serenity level down. You have to discard your “rights”, as well as your expectations, by asking yourself, How important is it, really? How important is it compared to your serenity, your emotional peace? And when you place more value on your serenity and inner peace than anything else, you can maintain them at a higher level, at least for a time. So keep your magic magnifying … Continue reading

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