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Life. How it works.

ShareI’d like to ask you a question. First though, stop whatever you’re doing, empty your thoughts, then visualize this scene in your head. Think of key moments in your past that impacted your life so profoundly you can’t imagine what your life would be like today, right now, without them. What happened? What was that “moment” you saw in your head just now? Was there someone else in that scene? Someone who was a part of that moment either directly or indirectly? That moment could have been a negative event or it could have been a positive one. Doesn’t matter. Because either way, it changed your destiny. That’s where I am right now. Again! Yet another ending, another moment when destiny switched and something happened … Continue reading

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You are Loved

Sharevia Neale Donald Walsch; “On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know… …that enthusiasm is half of the journey to success, and all of the journey to joy. If you’re going to do something, do it with gusto. Don’t do anything half-heartedly. That dishonors the doing and the doer. So go for it. Hold nothing back. In life. Or love. Or anything at all. You will not have to think but a second to know exactly why you received this message today. Trust that your inner goodness will rule this moment…” ~ Neale Donald Walsch “You are loved and cherished, dearly, forever.” “You have nothing to fear.” “There is nothing you can do wrong.” ~ unknown

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Dog’s Purpose ~ From a 6 Year Old

ShareBeing a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog’s owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn’t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home. As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure as they felt that Shane might learn something from the experience. The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker’s family surrounded him. Shane seemed … Continue reading

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Don’t Quit….Never Give Up

ShareEvery once in awhile,  someone we know says something that catches our attention in a way that moves our soul. Today is one of those for me, and perhaps these thoughts and words from the heart of a fellow human being may touch yours; “Everywhere I turn, I see and hear people relaying messages of frustration and sadness. I currently have friends fighting the fight of their lives with cancer and other ailments. I have friends who are going through the pains of loss in relationships, friendships, work, self esteem and so much more. So it got me thinking… again. Sometimes it’s really hard to remember this. Harder for some of us than others, and especially hard for me at times. For as we grow … Continue reading

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‘You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married’: Lessons for Marriage, Learned from Divorce

ShareWe think about divorce in terms of “failed” marriages, but author and filmmaker Dana Adam Shapiro’s new book is a reminder that often our best shot at finding lasting love comes from the personal growth that occurs in the aftermath of a painful break-up. Over about four years, Shapiro, whose documentary bv Murderball was nominated for an Academy Award, traveled across the country interviewing hundreds of people who had survived a tough divorce and published many of their stories in the collection ‘You Can Be Right (Or You Can Be Married).’ Related: Dana Adams Shapiro’s Filmography on Yahoo! Movies When Shapiro, now 38, hit his mid-30s, he witnessed many of his friends’ marriages start to fall apart and wondered why. At the same time, he hadn’t been able to sustain … Continue reading

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“9-11”

ShareEvery once in awhile, something appears that gets our attention. Something that unites us as a race of human beings,  regardless of what part of the world we live in,  our color, our religious beliefs, our gender, or social status, or what have you. This is one of those “moments”, something I read today on a personal friend’s Facebook page. Here is an amazing story from a flight attendant on Delta Flight 15, written following 9-11 & fact checked today: “On the morning of Tuesday, September 11, we were about 5 hours out of Frankfurt, flying over the North Atlantic. All of a sudden the curtains parted and I was told to go to the cockpit, immediately, to see the captain. As soon as I … Continue reading

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5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage: Revealed by Divorce

ShareIn 25 years of studying marriage, Dr. Terri Orbuch, research professor at the University of Michigan and author of the new book “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship,” has found that some of the best relationship advice comes from people who are actually divorced. WATCH: Is this the Most Epic Marriage Proposal? In 1986, Orbuch embarked on a long-term study, supported by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), which followed the relationships of 373 newlyweds. By 2012, 46% had divorced, about the same as the national average. In interviews with Orbuch, people who had divorced or ended a serious relationship over and over again brought up the same five issues that they would improve if they had the chance … Continue reading

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Learn to Let Go

ShareMany have asked; “How do I let go? Why is that so hard?” Perhaps we try too hard, we over-analyze, trying to “figure it all out.” We’re too hard on ourselves. Many times it’s not the attachment that causes us pain. It’s detachment that hurts. The following article as seen in McWilliams – Life 101 can also be viewed HERE. I don’t want the cheese, I just want to get out of the trap. SPANISH PROVERB How does one avoid loss in the first place? Contrary to popular belief, it’s not attachment that causes loss–attachment feels fine. It’s detachment that hurts. Learn to let go. Some suggest that to avoid loss, one should never be attached to anything. They give the example of a hand in water: when … Continue reading

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Ted Williams – “The Man With The Golden Voice”

ShareHe came bursting into our living rooms, on our computers, and on our cell phones. It was January, 2011, and a roving news reporter with a camera noticed a disheveled homeless man holding a sign asking for financial help. The sign included a hand-written statement advertising his radio voice. The reporter took a chance, gave the man some money, and asked him to give an example of his voice. He caught it all on camera. Today, than ONE video has been viewed 20 MILLION times around the world. Within days, the homeless man was flooded with job offers, financial aid, requests for interviews, and appeared live on the Today show with Matt Lauer. And then the bottom fell out. Not long after the media sensation … Continue reading

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Life is Simple ~ CHOICES

ShareLife is simple. When you wake up each day, think of this one. Attitude. Choices. Run with that! ~ Gusto If you’re having a tough day,  Read this..  LET IT REALLY SINK IN…….  THEN CHOOSE.  John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, ‘If I were any better, I would be twins!’  He was a natural motivator.  If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.  Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, … Continue reading

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You Can Too!

Share“You can too!” The first 13 years of my life were fairly normal; a farm boy living in a small town doing the things farm boys do, working, playing, going to school, church, participating in sports. That ENDED shortly before my 14th birthday. As I looked down at my mother’s near lifeless body, which was force-ably ejected after a head-on collision with another vehicle, I knew right then the life I once loved was gone. I was the first one on the scene. If it wasn’t for that hill that obscured the view of the collision, I would have seen it with my own eyes. But boy, did I hear it. That sound, the smell in the air, is as vivid today as it was … Continue reading

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You Are the Narrator of Your Life

ShareRecently a good friend of mine, Laura Barrette Shannon, author of “Be Happy Now, Simple Steps for Enjoying Life”, and page owner of the same name, shared something on her Facebook page that hit home in so many ways. It was one of those “moments” that come along rarely, an opportunity to view life as it really is, right NOW, right here, in “this moment.” So I’d like to share it with you, since I’m fairly certain it will resonate for you in the same way it did for me. There’s really nothing I could add to this since her words are as if they were my own, words that describe how I view MY life today, after so many years of negative “self-talk”, “self-worth” … Continue reading

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Facing Fear ~ The Hidden Enemy

ShareWho has not felt the cold clammy hand of fear grip one’s spirit and paralyze our actions mid step? Sometimes this happens right at the moment when we are on the very verge of accomplishing our greatest success! Foiled by the Enemy again! Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Most of us are enslaved by some kind of fear or the other. Like many of you, I have encountered fear in many different forms. The fear of being stuck in a permanent cage, unable to fulfill my true potential, the fear of not living up to the expectations of the people who matter most to me, the fear of loss of my loved ones, the … Continue reading

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HOPE

ShareYou may be feeling lost. You’re stuck. Hope, to you, is just a word that seems out of reach. But somewhere, on the other side of doubt and despair, lies a beautiful world filled with courage and faith. And where those exist, hope and love will surely follow. So don’t give up. The road may be long, and at times the obstacles seem overwhelming, but when you act and live with kindness and love towards yourself and others, GOOD things, all the best things in life will be yours. That’s a promise, a guarantee, and an absolutely universal truth. ~ Gusto And finally, a gentle reminder, you’ll always have a friend here, it’s about the people, it’s how we make each other FEEL.

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“Gusto” Turns Two….The Journey Continues

ShareApril 9th, 2010. It’s 2:30 a.m. and I can’t sleep. I’ve been back in California less than a month, and already, life is changing rapidly. Recent events, some quite painful, are causing a major shift in my perspective. As I sit there alone in the darkness, something occurs in me that will change my life forever. Turning on the kitchen light, I sit down in front of my computer and start searching on the internet. For what, I’m not sure. But within moments, I soon find out. During this moment of despair and heartache, my mind takes me back to when I was a little boy growing up on a farm on the plains of Western Kansas. As the only boy out of 6 children … Continue reading

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Struggles Make Us Stronger

ShareA man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole. Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further. So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily but it had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch it, expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge and expand enough to support the body. Neither happened! In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around. It was never able to fly. What the man in his kindness … Continue reading

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It’s Not How They Die….It’s How They LIVED

ShareThe following article was shared with me via email by a friend of mine. It moved me much as it did for my friend, so I’m sharing it here with all of you. My opinion? If I would have had the opportunity to speak with my Mother before she died, I’m convinced it would have been about “family.” No more. No less. Because those are the ties that bind each of us, the bedrock upon which we build our lives thereafter, and all the relationships we develop, nurture, and enjoy during our time here on this planet. ~ Gusto Kerry Egan is a hospice chaplain in Massachusetts and the author of “Fumbling: A Pilgrimage Tale of Love, Grief, and Spiritual Renewal on the Camino de … Continue reading

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Shattered Glass

ShareThe “past.” It always seems to never go away, does it? As hard as we try to forget certain events in our life, we’re never able to shake them. Nor should we even try. They’re an inevitable part of the make-up of who we are today. Good or bad, they’re with us forever. Acceptance of that truth is a key component to our emotional well-being. Last night I had a dream, or rather a nightmare of events that occurred about ten years ago. That was a time of self-indulgence, denial, anger, and chaos. Like most of us, I immediately woke up, startled by how vivid the nightmare was, secretly hoping when I went back to sleep, it wouldn’t continue. But it did. So I woke … Continue reading

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Why Do We Struggle?

ShareWhy do some of us seem afflicted with nothing but pain and hardship in life while others seem to be on easy street? Why do some of us struggle with life issues while others seem to always find a way to keep moving forward in a positive light? I’ve written here before about a topic and phrase entitled “acceptance is the answer.” Some of you reading this know the source from which that phrase originated. And though some may believe it’s designed only for those who are following diligent “steps” in their path of self-recovery, I’ve maintained for some time that phrase applies to all of us, regardless of our particular circumstances or misfortunes. That book is about life. “Acceptance is the answer to all … Continue reading

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“10 Rules for Being Human” ~ Cherie Carter-Scott

Share“Ten Rules for Being Human” ~ by Cherie Carter-Scott All of these are important, but #8 and #9 may the the most important of all. Life is like water, there’s an ebb and flow feel to it; nothing stays the same, everything changes, but it’s our choices that decide whether we’re the “cause” of our world or the “effect.” Be the rock. Stand by your beliefs. Don’t compromise your values. BE the change you wish to see in the world. The power lies from within. ~ Gusto 1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period. 2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.” 3. … Continue reading

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The Joshua Tree – Part III – NEW Beginnings

ShareLess than 24 hours after leaving San Diego, bound for the desert to clear my head and reconnect with the inner spirit guiding me there, I awoke at 5:30 a.m. It was February 26th, 2012, exactly one year to the day when I’d done the same thing. (A recap of that story may be read by clicking > HERE.) The room I’d rented for the night at the Best Western in Yucca Valley, CA. was less than a half-hour drive back to Joshua Tree National Park. I didn’t have much time. The sun would be rising soon, so I loaded up on coffee, water, and a few things to eat. Batteries were fully charged on both my cell phone and my digital camera. It was … Continue reading

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The Joshua Tree – Part II

ShareDisregarding my fatigue, “listening” to the silent voice inside that said “keep going”,  and seeing that the sun was about to set, I rushed into the Best Western where I was staying, quickly checked in, and asked the attendant if she had any brochures on Joshua Tree National Park. After all, I’d never been there and wanted to know more. Of course, she had oodles of information. To learn more yourself, Google anything associated with the Joshua Tree, or click this link from National Geographic. So off I went, camera in hand, fully stocked with plenty of water and snacks just in case. My destination would not have any services. No food. No water. No gas. Not even cell phone service. Entering the park, I … Continue reading

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The Joshua Tree – Part I

ShareFriday, February 24th, 2012. Awoke at 5 a.m., the usual time. Walked outside to get the morning paper in the driveway. It was still dark and as I opened the gate, I heard him, softly cooing not far away in the quiet neighborhood where I lived. It was a Mourning Dove. For reasons unknown, it suddenly occurred to me, this was the same dove I’d been hearing the day before and the weeks before that. Every day. But why did I “hear” him today, and not all the others? As I went back inside, memories of my home state of Kansas came flooding back. Why? Because Mourning Doves are prevalent there. However, the last thing I expected was to hear one in San Diego, CA. … Continue reading

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You Know That Feeling….?

ShareYou know that feeling when you’re just waiting, waiting to get home into your room, close the door, fall into bed, and just let everything out that you kept in all day, that feeling of both relief and desperation? Nothing is wrong, but nothing is right either, and you’re tired, tired of everything, tired of nothing, and you just want someone to be there and tell you it’s okay, but no one’s going to be there, and you know you have to be strong for yourself, because no one can fix you. But you’re tired of waiting, tired of having to be the one to fix yourself and everyone else, tired of being strong, and for once, you just want it to be easy, to … Continue reading

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God’s Hands

ShareGod’s Hands Sometimes we must be hurt in order to grow, we must fail in order to know, we must lose in order to gain. Some lessons are learned best only through pain. Sometimes our vision clears only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes we have to be broken so we can be tender; sick, so we can rest and think better on things more important than work or fun. Trip near death, so we can assess how we’ve ran. Sometimes we have to suffer lack so we can know God’s provisions, feel another’s pain, so we can have a sense of mission. So take heart my friend, If you don’t understand today, Instead of grumbling, ask God what He means to say. … Continue reading

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