Category Archives: Romantic Relationships

Successful Relationships

Relationships - Good

“Relationships.” Wow, if there’s one word, one topic that’s on a lot of people’s minds these days, this would be it. As a writer and mentor, owner of a Facebook page called Go for the Gusto, and owner of a website that focuses on helping others, it never ceases to amaze me how hot this topic is. Over the past 2 ½ years since I created these two means of communication in the social media world, countless private consultations via phone and email in my role as a mentor/life coach, and many times just as a friend and fellow human being, it leaves little doubt this topic will continue to be on the front burner. This is particularly so for those of us over the … Continue reading

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Don’t Quit….Never Give Up

Don't Give Up

Every once in awhile,  someone we know says something that catches our attention in a way that moves our soul. Today is one of those for me, and perhaps these thoughts and words from the heart of a fellow human being may touch yours; “Everywhere I turn, I see and hear people relaying messages of frustration and sadness. I currently have friends fighting the fight of their lives with cancer and other ailments. I have friends who are going through the pains of loss in relationships, friendships, work, self esteem and so much more. So it got me thinking… again. Sometimes it’s really hard to remember this. Harder for some of us than others, and especially hard for me at times. For as we grow … Continue reading

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‘You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married’: Lessons for Marriage, Learned from Divorce

Relationships - Good

We think about divorce in terms of “failed” marriages, but author and filmmaker Dana Adam Shapiro’s new book is a reminder that often our best shot at finding lasting love comes from the personal growth that occurs in the aftermath of a painful break-up. Over about four years, Shapiro, whose documentary bv Murderball was nominated for an Academy Award, traveled across the country interviewing hundreds of people who had survived a tough divorce and published many of their stories in the collection ‘You Can Be Right (Or You Can Be Married).’ Related: Dana Adams Shapiro’s Filmography on Yahoo! Movies When Shapiro, now 38, hit his mid-30s, he witnessed many of his friends’ marriages start to fall apart and wondered why. At the same time, he hadn’t been able to sustain … Continue reading

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Relationships

Acceptance is Everything

1) Disappointment comes from expectation 2) Most relationship problems come from expectations So, I decided to try an experiment. To have a relationship with NO EXPECTATIONS. It’s hard, but possible. It sounded impossible when I thought of it, but it is in fact possible. Hopes are ok. Wants are ok. But expectation is out. Expect nothing of no one, and you will never be disappointed. Remember, this is in RELATIONSHIPS. Different rules for other situations. Expectations from yourself are a double-edged sword. They help you stay focused and achieve your goals, but can also lead to self-disappointment – possibly crippling disappointment. You have to learn that in your own life, you will make mistakes and will fail to achieve some objectives. The trick is to … Continue reading

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5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage: Revealed by Divorce

Love on a Beach

In 25 years of studying marriage, Dr. Terri Orbuch, research professor at the University of Michigan and author of the new book “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship,” has found that some of the best relationship advice comes from people who are actually divorced. WATCH: Is this the Most Epic Marriage Proposal? In 1986, Orbuch embarked on a long-term study, supported by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), which followed the relationships of 373 newlyweds. By 2012, 46% had divorced, about the same as the national average. In interviews with Orbuch, people who had divorced or ended a serious relationship over and over again brought up the same five issues that they would improve if they had the chance … Continue reading

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How to Love a Woman

Love a Woman

Once in awhile, while we’re online, we stumble upon something that’s priceless. This is a masterpiece written by Terri Plewa, an astrologer, heartcoach, and writer. It’s a jewel worth savoring and saving here on this website for posterity. It’ll move you and touch you, that’s a virtual guarantee. And as I read it, me being “tuned in”, as it were, it brought a song to mind by Bryan Adams, included below. … Here’s to LOVING a woman how she’s meant to be loved. ~ Gusto A woman is not to be invaded. She is not to be questioned or conquered. This has been said a million times. Let’s say it a million and one. She is to be loved. That’s it. It sounds so simple It’s simple, … Continue reading

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Are We On Information Overload?

Dolphin

You want something and know what it is? You go get it. You need something but are unsure? You go “online.” You “google it.” You surf. You visit endless sites. You go on Facebook even. Your computer and cell phone browser histories are teeming with data. Pretty soon you’re in “information overload land”, lost in a sea of confusion more than ever, along with millions of others just like you. What is the secret to “happiness?” Is it money? Is it the perfect mate? Is it a cure for whatever health issue ails you or your loved one? The job where your boss thinks you’re simply invaluable, irreplaceable, and will do anything to keep you? The problem isn’t that we have problems. The problem is … Continue reading

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Learn to Let Go

Acceptance is Everything

Many have asked; “How do I let go? Why is that so hard?” Perhaps we try too hard, we over-analyze, trying to “figure it all out.” We’re too hard on ourselves. Many times it’s not the attachment that causes us pain. It’s detachment that hurts. The following article as seen in McWilliams – Life 101 can also be viewed HERE. I don’t want the cheese, I just want to get out of the trap. SPANISH PROVERB How does one avoid loss in the first place? Contrary to popular belief, it’s not attachment that causes loss–attachment feels fine. It’s detachment that hurts. Learn to let go. Some suggest that to avoid loss, one should never be attached to anything. They give the example of a hand in water: when … Continue reading

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Love is a Moment That Lasts Forever

Endless Love

This is for all the guys out there. But since 85% of this page’s members are of female persuasion, feel free it to share with your “guy”, too. Hope this is something that resonates. Guys? When a woman says “I Love You”, she means it. That means more than treating her like a lady. Whether you’ve been with her a week, a month, or 50 years, make her feel like it’s your first date every day. Gaze into her eyes as if it’s the last time you’ll ever see her. When she cries, don’t try to stop her. Women do that. Cry with her if you have to. When she gets mad or yells at you, don’t yell back. Take it. After all, she’s the … Continue reading

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Shattered Glass

Acceptance is Everything

The “past.” It always seems to never go away, does it? As hard as we try to forget certain events in our life, we’re never able to shake them. Nor should we even try. They’re an inevitable part of the make-up of who we are today. Good or bad, they’re with us forever. Acceptance of that truth is a key component to our emotional well-being. Last night I had a dream, or rather a nightmare of events that occurred about ten years ago. That was a time of self-indulgence, denial, anger, and chaos. Like most of us, I immediately woke up, startled by how vivid the nightmare was, secretly hoping when I went back to sleep, it wouldn’t continue. But it did. So I woke … Continue reading

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Failure Beats Never Trying

Failure

A couple hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. Never leave that till tomorrow, he said, which you can do today. This is the man who discovered electricity. You think more people would listen to what he had to say. I don’t know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, I’d have to say that it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, sometimes, the fear is just of making a decision, because what if you’re wrong? What if you’re making a mistake that you can’t undo? The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can’t pretend we … Continue reading

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Someone….

Someone

Right now at this very minute, someone is very proud of you. Someone is thinking of you. Someone cares about you. Someone misses you. Someone wants to talk to you. Someone wants to be with you. Someone hopes you aren’t in trouble. Someone wants to hold your hand. Someone wants you to be happy just for you. Someone thinks you are a gift. Someone wants to hug you. Someone loves you. Someone admires your strength. Someone is thinking of you and smiling. Someone wants to be on your shoulder to cry on. Someone thinks the world of you. Someone wants to protect you. Someone would do anything for you. Someone wants to be forgiven. Someone is grateful for your forgiveness. Someone wants to laugh with you … Continue reading

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Reasons, Seasons, or Lifetime

Reasons, Seasons, Lifetime

One of the most difficult parts of our lives is dealing with relationships. Whether it’s family, friends, co-workers, or intimate, there will be times in our life when our faith is severely tested. Think of those relationships in your past when something beautiful came along and, for whatever reason, it ended. It may have been the death of a family member or loved one. Your first boyfriend/girlfriend or marriage. A co-worker who turned their back on you. Someone whom you thought was a friend, only to learn that they were just using you. However you wish to describe those moments, they all involve a form of grieving. The pain, heartbreak, and the bitterness you felt. As for me, my first experience was in the death … Continue reading

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“Only once in your life…..” ~ Bob Marley

Intimacy

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, … Continue reading

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Welcome to the NEW Gusto Ramblings!

Gus Rowe

Hi! I’m excited to Welcome you to the NEW “Gusto Ramblings” website! Nearly 2 years ago, April 9th, 2010 to be exact, I awoke early one morning and a thought occurred to me; “You’ve got so much inside that you want to express, so many experiences you wish to share and the lessons you’ve gained from them, why not start your own website? A platform by which you might inspire others?” I had reached a point in my life that I knew I needed an outlet. Up until then, I was merely sharing some of my musings and thoughts on my personal Facebook page, a forum I had joined in early 2009, after suffering a rapid series of tragic events beginning in mid-2007 until June 2008. … Continue reading

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“Carried Away….”

  This one’s been around awhile, and there’s some question to its origin or even its validity, but irrespective of that, it’s food for thought. Cherish your loved ones, even when times are bad, even when things are at their worst, for we never know what tomorrow may bring…. ~ Gusto When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my … Continue reading

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Keep Going…You’re Not Finished Yet!

It's The Climb

He comes in the middle of the night, when the mind and heart are clear, emptied of yesterday’s memory. I’m not a “bible-beater” as I always say, but that’s my theory anyway. Because every time this has happened over the past few years, which isn’t often, a moment of clarity appears that heightens my senses, as if He’s sending me a message, and it happened again this morning (Dec. 7th, 2011) around 2:30 a.m, in much the same way as when this page and my website were created on April 9th, 2010. And so, after a nightly foray for “relief”, as it were, I decided to check my website email account. By way of background, this is the account I use only for my Facebook … Continue reading

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Pay it Forward – Part IV

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Pay it Forward – Part III – 12-23-10

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Pay it Forward – Part II

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Pay it Forward – Part I

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Integrity, Vulnerability, & Perfection

The essence of integrity isn’t just speaking of moral and ethical principles. It’s putting those principles on the table for the entire world to see by virtue of your actions. A microcosm of yourself that others look at. Being brutally honest with yourself, God, and those you love and hold dearest to your heart is one thing. Doing the very same thing with everyone you know and come into contact with is entirely another matter. In the first instance, the truth you see in yourself, what you admit to God, and what you share with people you love the most, affords a level of comfort, safety, and security you simply don’t have in the latter instance. People want the truth. It’s our nature as human … Continue reading

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Giving All You Have

“Gus, you always hear it spoken, relationships are 50/50…..I don’t believe it……in my eyes they are 100% / 100%….without that commitment you have nothing……think you can run with that????” That was a private message I received recently from one of the followers of Gusto on Facebook, in response to a question I posed of its readers for a topic to write about. I replied by saying that was a great one since it’s something that hits home for me. At first glance, most people would assume that topic to mean the dynamics of a relationship between two people who are intimately involved. Of course, marriage comes instantly to mind. But my mind wanders and it quickly took me to many other areas of life. When … Continue reading

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“A Change Will Do You Good”

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Just Be Yourself

“Just be yourself.” How many times have all of us heard that one? Think of the times you’ve heard it yourself; a job interview, meeting someone for the first time, a school play, or any time you’ve had to speak in front of others, regardless of who or how many people are around. I’m sure simply hearing those three words causes stomach knots for some of us. Question is, why? Why do people say that to begin with and why does it bother some of us, while there are others who have no problem with it at all? I think the answer lies not in what others think of us but how we feel about ourselves. If the foundation of our soul is based on … Continue reading

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