Category Archives: Self-Improvement

Life. How it works.

ShareI’d like to ask you a question. First though, stop whatever you’re doing, empty your thoughts, then visualize this scene in your head. Think of key moments in your past that impacted your life so profoundly you can’t imagine what your life would be like today, right now, without them. What happened? What was that “moment” you saw in your head just now? Was there someone else in that scene? Someone who was a part of that moment either directly or indirectly? That moment could have been a negative event or it could have been a positive one. Doesn’t matter. Because either way, it changed your destiny. That’s where I am right now. Again! Yet another ending, another moment when destiny switched and something happened … Continue reading

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Don’t Quit….Never Give Up

ShareEvery once in awhile,  someone we know says something that catches our attention in a way that moves our soul. Today is one of those for me, and perhaps these thoughts and words from the heart of a fellow human being may touch yours; “Everywhere I turn, I see and hear people relaying messages of frustration and sadness. I currently have friends fighting the fight of their lives with cancer and other ailments. I have friends who are going through the pains of loss in relationships, friendships, work, self esteem and so much more. So it got me thinking… again. Sometimes it’s really hard to remember this. Harder for some of us than others, and especially hard for me at times. For as we grow … Continue reading

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Wisdom of the Soul

Share         WISDOM OF THE SOUL 1. No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission. 2. Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be. 3. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently. 4. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have. 5. Success stops when you do. 6. When your ship comes in. … make sure you are willing to unload it. 7. You will never “have it all together.” 8. Life is a journey… not a destination. Enjoy the trip! 9. The biggest lie on the planet: “When I get what I want I will be happy.” 10. The best way to escape your problem is … Continue reading

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‘You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married’: Lessons for Marriage, Learned from Divorce

ShareWe think about divorce in terms of “failed” marriages, but author and filmmaker Dana Adam Shapiro’s new book is a reminder that often our best shot at finding lasting love comes from the personal growth that occurs in the aftermath of a painful break-up. Over about four years, Shapiro, whose documentary bv Murderball was nominated for an Academy Award, traveled across the country interviewing hundreds of people who had survived a tough divorce and published many of their stories in the collection ‘You Can Be Right (Or You Can Be Married).’ Related: Dana Adams Shapiro’s Filmography on Yahoo! Movies When Shapiro, now 38, hit his mid-30s, he witnessed many of his friends’ marriages start to fall apart and wondered why. At the same time, he hadn’t been able to sustain … Continue reading

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Share1) Disappointment comes from expectation 2) Most relationship problems come from expectations So, I decided to try an experiment. To have a relationship with NO EXPECTATIONS. It’s hard, but possible. It sounded impossible when I thought of it, but it is in fact possible. Hopes are ok. Wants are ok. But expectation is out. Expect nothing of no one, and you will never be disappointed. Remember, this is in RELATIONSHIPS. Different rules for other situations. Expectations from yourself are a double-edged sword. They help you stay focused and achieve your goals, but can also lead to self-disappointment – possibly crippling disappointment. You have to learn that in your own life, you will make mistakes and will fail to achieve some objectives. The trick is to … Continue reading

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5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage: Revealed by Divorce

ShareIn 25 years of studying marriage, Dr. Terri Orbuch, research professor at the University of Michigan and author of the new book “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship,” has found that some of the best relationship advice comes from people who are actually divorced. WATCH: Is this the Most Epic Marriage Proposal? In 1986, Orbuch embarked on a long-term study, supported by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), which followed the relationships of 373 newlyweds. By 2012, 46% had divorced, about the same as the national average. In interviews with Orbuch, people who had divorced or ended a serious relationship over and over again brought up the same five issues that they would improve if they had the chance … Continue reading

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How to Love a Woman

ShareOnce in awhile, while we’re online, we stumble upon something that’s priceless. This is a masterpiece written by Terri Plewa, an astrologer, heartcoach, and writer. It’s a jewel worth savoring and saving here on this website for posterity. It’ll move you and touch you, that’s a virtual guarantee. And as I read it, me being “tuned in”, as it were, it brought a song to mind by Bryan Adams, included below. … Here’s to LOVING a woman how she’s meant to be loved. ~ Gusto A woman is not to be invaded. She is not to be questioned or conquered. This has been said a million times. Let’s say it a million and one. She is to be loved. That’s it. It sounds so simple It’s simple, … Continue reading

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Feed the Right Emotion ~ John Maxwell

ShareFEED THE RIGHT EMOTION In life, both faith and fear will arise within you, and you will choose which one will prevail. Someone once wrote; Two natures beat within my breast, The one is foul, the other blessed. The one I love, the other I hate; The one I feed will dominate. The thing is, both of those emotions will always be present in you. The emotion you continually feed is the one that will dominate your life. You can’t expect fear simply to disappear. If you continually focus on your fears, entertain them, and give in to them, they will increase. The way to ultimately overcome them is to starve them. Don’t give your fears any of your time or energy. Don’t feed them … Continue reading

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Are We On Information Overload?

ShareYou want something and know what it is? You go get it. You need something but are unsure? You go “online.” You “google it.” You surf. You visit endless sites. You go on Facebook even. Your computer and cell phone browser histories are teeming with data. Pretty soon you’re in “information overload land”, lost in a sea of confusion more than ever, along with millions of others just like you. What is the secret to “happiness?” Is it money? Is it the perfect mate? Is it a cure for whatever health issue ails you or your loved one? The job where your boss thinks you’re simply invaluable, irreplaceable, and will do anything to keep you? The problem isn’t that we have problems. The problem is … Continue reading

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Eckhart Tolle ~ New Earth

Share“As the new consciousness emerges, some people will feel called upon to form groups that reflect the enlightened consciousness. Dissolving the human ego by bringing it into the light of awareness–this will be one of the main purposes of these groups, whether they be enlightened businesses, charitable organizations, schools, or communities of people living together. Enlightened collectives can be a vortex for consciousness that will accelerate the planetary shift.”~ Eckhart Tolle “A New Earth is one of the most profound pieces of work ever written.  No matter how many times I immerse myself in these teachings, I hear things I’ve never heard before or hear things in a different way. 😉 This piece on collective ego is profound… where Tolle talks about large groups that … Continue reading

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Learn to Let Go

ShareMany have asked; “How do I let go? Why is that so hard?” Perhaps we try too hard, we over-analyze, trying to “figure it all out.” We’re too hard on ourselves. Many times it’s not the attachment that causes us pain. It’s detachment that hurts. The following article as seen in McWilliams – Life 101 can also be viewed HERE. I don’t want the cheese, I just want to get out of the trap. SPANISH PROVERB How does one avoid loss in the first place? Contrary to popular belief, it’s not attachment that causes loss–attachment feels fine. It’s detachment that hurts. Learn to let go. Some suggest that to avoid loss, one should never be attached to anything. They give the example of a hand in water: when … Continue reading

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Ted Williams – “The Man With The Golden Voice”

ShareHe came bursting into our living rooms, on our computers, and on our cell phones. It was January, 2011, and a roving news reporter with a camera noticed a disheveled homeless man holding a sign asking for financial help. The sign included a hand-written statement advertising his radio voice. The reporter took a chance, gave the man some money, and asked him to give an example of his voice. He caught it all on camera. Today, than ONE video has been viewed 20 MILLION times around the world. Within days, the homeless man was flooded with job offers, financial aid, requests for interviews, and appeared live on the Today show with Matt Lauer. And then the bottom fell out. Not long after the media sensation … Continue reading

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Life is Simple ~ CHOICES

ShareLife is simple. When you wake up each day, think of this one. Attitude. Choices. Run with that! ~ Gusto If you’re having a tough day,  Read this..  LET IT REALLY SINK IN…….  THEN CHOOSE.  John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, ‘If I were any better, I would be twins!’  He was a natural motivator.  If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.  Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, … Continue reading

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You Can Too!

Share“You can too!” The first 13 years of my life were fairly normal; a farm boy living in a small town doing the things farm boys do, working, playing, going to school, church, participating in sports. That ENDED shortly before my 14th birthday. As I looked down at my mother’s near lifeless body, which was force-ably ejected after a head-on collision with another vehicle, I knew right then the life I once loved was gone. I was the first one on the scene. If it wasn’t for that hill that obscured the view of the collision, I would have seen it with my own eyes. But boy, did I hear it. That sound, the smell in the air, is as vivid today as it was … Continue reading

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Passion & Humility

ShareYou want passion in your life? You want ownership of everything you’ve ever dreamed of, including love? Stop talking about it and start taking action. No one ever promised life would be a cake walk. To want, that’s just desire. It’s knowing WHAT you want and what you’re willing to sacrifice to get it. It’s waking up every day and when your feet hit the floor or out the door, the whole world says; “Holy crap! You mean business!” You’re on a mission and you won’t take no for an answer. All those struggles and heartache to get there? It’s all worth it. Every second of it. So take hold of it, shake it, and stir it up, because life isn’t a dress rehearsal. It’s … Continue reading

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What I Have Learned

Share“I have learned many things in this short life of mine. I’ve learned that no matter what happens in day-to-day life, nor how bad or unfair it may seem, life goes on, that tomorrow brings a brand new day filled with new hope. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your mom and dad, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life. I’ve learned that I have the ability to encourage others to shine their brightest light even in their darkest hour. I’ve learned that inspiring others whenever possible is the greatest gift one can receive. I’ve learned that every day you should be grateful for the opportunities … Continue reading

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One Glass of Milk

ShareThe great English writer, Aldous Huxley, was a pioneer in the study of philosophies and techniques to develop human potential. In a lecture toward the end of his life, he said this: “People often ask me…what is the most effective technique for transforming their lives?” He then said, “It’s a little embarrassing that after years and years of research, my best answer is just be a little kinder.” The following story illustrates that to a universal truth beautifully! As for you, think of something someone did for you in the past, something so kind, so “out of the blue”, that it left you speechless, yet with a sense of warmth and HOPE in your heart that you said to yourself; “You know what? This place … Continue reading

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You Are the Narrator of Your Life

ShareRecently a good friend of mine, Laura Barrette Shannon, author of “Be Happy Now, Simple Steps for Enjoying Life”, and page owner of the same name, shared something on her Facebook page that hit home in so many ways. It was one of those “moments” that come along rarely, an opportunity to view life as it really is, right NOW, right here, in “this moment.” So I’d like to share it with you, since I’m fairly certain it will resonate for you in the same way it did for me. There’s really nothing I could add to this since her words are as if they were my own, words that describe how I view MY life today, after so many years of negative “self-talk”, “self-worth” … Continue reading

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Facing Fear ~ The Hidden Enemy

ShareWho has not felt the cold clammy hand of fear grip one’s spirit and paralyze our actions mid step? Sometimes this happens right at the moment when we are on the very verge of accomplishing our greatest success! Foiled by the Enemy again! Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Most of us are enslaved by some kind of fear or the other. Like many of you, I have encountered fear in many different forms. The fear of being stuck in a permanent cage, unable to fulfill my true potential, the fear of not living up to the expectations of the people who matter most to me, the fear of loss of my loved ones, the … Continue reading

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ShareYou may be feeling lost. You’re stuck. Hope, to you, is just a word that seems out of reach. But somewhere, on the other side of doubt and despair, lies a beautiful world filled with courage and faith. And where those exist, hope and love will surely follow. So don’t give up. The road may be long, and at times the obstacles seem overwhelming, but when you act and live with kindness and love towards yourself and others, GOOD things, all the best things in life will be yours. That’s a promise, a guarantee, and an absolutely universal truth. ~ Gusto And finally, a gentle reminder, you’ll always have a friend here, it’s about the people, it’s how we make each other FEEL.

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“Gusto” Turns Two….The Journey Continues

ShareApril 9th, 2010. It’s 2:30 a.m. and I can’t sleep. I’ve been back in California less than a month, and already, life is changing rapidly. Recent events, some quite painful, are causing a major shift in my perspective. As I sit there alone in the darkness, something occurs in me that will change my life forever. Turning on the kitchen light, I sit down in front of my computer and start searching on the internet. For what, I’m not sure. But within moments, I soon find out. During this moment of despair and heartache, my mind takes me back to when I was a little boy growing up on a farm on the plains of Western Kansas. As the only boy out of 6 children … Continue reading

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Struggles Make Us Stronger

ShareA man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole. Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further. So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily but it had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch it, expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge and expand enough to support the body. Neither happened! In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around. It was never able to fly. What the man in his kindness … Continue reading

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Shattered Glass

ShareThe “past.” It always seems to never go away, does it? As hard as we try to forget certain events in our life, we’re never able to shake them. Nor should we even try. They’re an inevitable part of the make-up of who we are today. Good or bad, they’re with us forever. Acceptance of that truth is a key component to our emotional well-being. Last night I had a dream, or rather a nightmare of events that occurred about ten years ago. That was a time of self-indulgence, denial, anger, and chaos. Like most of us, I immediately woke up, startled by how vivid the nightmare was, secretly hoping when I went back to sleep, it wouldn’t continue. But it did. So I woke … Continue reading

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Why Do We Struggle?

ShareWhy do some of us seem afflicted with nothing but pain and hardship in life while others seem to be on easy street? Why do some of us struggle with life issues while others seem to always find a way to keep moving forward in a positive light? I’ve written here before about a topic and phrase entitled “acceptance is the answer.” Some of you reading this know the source from which that phrase originated. And though some may believe it’s designed only for those who are following diligent “steps” in their path of self-recovery, I’ve maintained for some time that phrase applies to all of us, regardless of our particular circumstances or misfortunes. That book is about life. “Acceptance is the answer to all … Continue reading

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“10 Rules for Being Human” ~ Cherie Carter-Scott

Share“Ten Rules for Being Human” ~ by Cherie Carter-Scott All of these are important, but #8 and #9 may the the most important of all. Life is like water, there’s an ebb and flow feel to it; nothing stays the same, everything changes, but it’s our choices that decide whether we’re the “cause” of our world or the “effect.” Be the rock. Stand by your beliefs. Don’t compromise your values. BE the change you wish to see in the world. The power lies from within. ~ Gusto 1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period. 2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.” 3. … Continue reading

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