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Ebb & Flow

I’ve written and said many times “things happen for a reason.” Most people think when they hear those words, of events in their lives, situations that come up, or circumstances placed into their lives. But the biggest of all is one perhaps many don’t “see” in those words. People. Special people. People that come into your life for a reason. The key difference is how we react. We can of course react positively to the good that comes our way

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Inspiration/Hope & Two Young Men

Where do I start with this one? Hmmm…in just the past couple of days, I noticed there was a new “fan” on the Gusto page I created on Facebook, a young man who lived right next door to me in Elkhart, KS. I think he’s around 17 and his father has a very successful construction business in S.W. Kansas, doing all kinds of work including home and commercial buildings. His mother is a teacher at the local school district and

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Living In The Moment

Recently, someone came into my life that asked me to “live in the moment” when we planned our first one-0n-one encounter. Living in the moment is something that goes in line with many of the teaching and lessons I’ve learned over the years and though I know we all try to practice this principle, it remains difficult, at least for me, to keep from “projecting” future events based on current feelings and emotions. In one of my earlier posts here

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FEAR

I’m not exactly certain where I’m going with this one but it’s been on my mind a lot lately for some reason. FEAR. “False Evidence Appearing Real”, a term a close family member once told me he thinks the word stands for. For a long time I wasn’t sure what he meant because life can be so harsh, so REAL, that fear is something hard for us to let go of. It can be done. One of the keys in

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People Who Inspire – Part II

I have a facebook friend who has someone in her life very very special. In the interests of privacy though, I will be using fictitious names with this story. It’s a story that gives me inspiration and it is my hope it does the same for you. First though, allow me to give you a little background on “Jane.” I became “friends” with Jane on facebook about a year ago. She was involved in threads with a mutual friend of

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People Who Inspire – Part I

Things continue to “happen”. The other night at the Eagles concert, Glenn Frey introduced a song called “No More Cloudy Days”, a love song I hadn’t heard in awhile. Odd moment, too. It was shortly after dark, not a cloud in the sky, moon about half-full just above the stage. Just as they began to play the song, there suddenly streaked across the sky center right just above the top of the stage, a shooting star. I looked over at

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Psychological Phenomenon

I’ve been thinking a lot about the psychology of relationships lately, especially family dynamics. When I went to SDSU in the early 80’s, I took psychology courses as electives and discovered I liked the subject so much I almost changed my major. Course, I didn’t, but did it up only a few credits short of a minor in the subject to go with my major in Business. Got all A’s too. One aspect of psychology that I find especially intriguing

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The Circle of Life

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“PASSION”

What is your passion? What drives you to do what you do in life? What is it that stirs your blood, the fire in your soul, that which motivates you most about LIFE? Mine can be traced in to shortly after I got out of the “Holliday Inn” in Elkhart. After being imprisoned for 158 days of acts of my own doing and will, it was time to re-evaluate what is important about life. Today, nearly 2 years later, I’m

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Destiny and Coincidence

This topic comes to mind for several reasons. As you recall, on April 27th, 2010 I wrote that I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. I’m not sure if I believed this prior to two years ago but I sure as hell do now. Reason being, is there is NO WAY anyone can tell me that everything that has occurred in my life, both good and bad, but especially the good ones the past two years, came about

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A Dynamic Life

How do you live your life? Are you one of those who is just going through the motions? Do you feel like your life is in a rut? Same ‘ol routine every day? Why? Is it because of financial limitations? Family or work obligations? Personal issues? Or are you one of those that is always looking for another way? Looking for an adventure? Thinking outside the box, taking risks? Spicing up your life? Spontaneity? From the VERY moment I left

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Emotions

I’m an emotional guy. And that’s a broad area. Most that know me well know I don’t hide how I feel and frankly, I don’t care to. I’ve learned that expressing one’s feelings, good or bad, in an open and honest way has several impacts with those I interact with. First, people can tell pretty damned easily if I’m happy, sad, upbeat, mad, melonchaly, or whatever. I say this often; what you see is what you get, I mean what

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Sense of Community

I was talking with one of my sisters the other day about the Southern California lifestyle. I remarked how some things have changed from when I last lived here over 27 years ago but there are other things that haven’t. There’s one in particular that is especially troubling that hasn’t changed….the lack of a “sense of community.” I don’t mean that to mean derogatory, it’s just that many people seem to be caught up in their own worlds to some

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“Less is More”

This one baffles me. I’ve heard this mentioned a lot among many people. I’ve tried to “cotton” to this concept but I just can’t seem to grasp it. Sure, I can come up with a few words here and there that sound catchy but I have to really try hard at it. Like most things I suppose, its probably better that we stick to what we know best. I feel more comfortable with the longer version, so I figure if

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Rick Warren

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The Internet, Cell Phones, iPods, Computers, & Facebook

The past 24 hours have been some of the toughest I’ve had in a long time. Deactivating my facebook account was more difficult than I thought, probably because its been such a huge part of my life since January 2009. Its hard to describe to anyone what I mean by that. After I was released from the “Holliday Inn” in Elkhart, KS., one of the very first things I did was to find my way to a computer. Being without

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Things Happen for A Reason

There’s been some strange things that have happened since I arrived in San Diego a little over a month ago. And so many things, too! First, my kids and I arrived after leaving Elkhart together on March 15th around 2 p.m. It was a Monday. It had only been the prior Tuesday when I left work that day for the final time. I had a lot to do; sorting through “stuff”, pitching loads and loads of things into the dumpster,

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Group Dynamics

I was thinking earlier today about this one. There’s over 30 of you on the “Gusto” facebook page in just two days now and 7 “followers” here on “Ramblings.” Here’s something I do often and I know this is weird but I’ll share it anyway. Here’s how it goes…. I said to myself, “Self? You’ve done a boat load of rambling, gushing, and spewing since this started. And almost ENTIRELY about you, other than the story with your daughter, don’t

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Freedom

One of my friends on facebook who follows my “Gusto” page sent me a private message saying she has family members whose husbands are abusive alcoholics and that she would suggest they take a look at this site. She also mentioned she was sure it wasn’t the only thing to be discussed among us and she’s absolutely right. That’s my hope and intent as well, very much so. That’s why I’m encouraging you to share of yourselves. Having said that

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Expectations & Serenity

One of the best things anyone should remember is that your serenity is inversely proportional to your expectations. The higher your expectations of other people are, chances are that your serenity will be lower. You can watch your serenity rise when you discard your expectations. But then “rights” try to move in, and they too can force your serenity level down. You have to discard your “rights”, as well as your expectations, by asking yourself, How important is it, really?

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