Category Archives: Tragedy

Life. How it works.

ShareI’d like to ask you a question. First though, stop whatever you’re doing, empty your thoughts, then visualize this scene in your head. Think of key moments in your past that impacted your life so profoundly you can’t imagine what your life would be like today, right now, without them. What happened? What was that “moment” you saw in your head just now? Was there someone else in that scene? Someone who was a part of that moment either directly or indirectly? That moment could have been a negative event or it could have been a positive one. Doesn’t matter. Because either way, it changed your destiny. That’s where I am right now. Again! Yet another ending, another moment when destiny switched and something happened … Continue reading

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Don’t Quit….Never Give Up

ShareEvery once in awhile,  someone we know says something that catches our attention in a way that moves our soul. Today is one of those for me, and perhaps these thoughts and words from the heart of a fellow human being may touch yours; “Everywhere I turn, I see and hear people relaying messages of frustration and sadness. I currently have friends fighting the fight of their lives with cancer and other ailments. I have friends who are going through the pains of loss in relationships, friendships, work, self esteem and so much more. So it got me thinking… again. Sometimes it’s really hard to remember this. Harder for some of us than others, and especially hard for me at times. For as we grow … Continue reading

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Ted Williams – “The Man With The Golden Voice”

ShareHe came bursting into our living rooms, on our computers, and on our cell phones. It was January, 2011, and a roving news reporter with a camera noticed a disheveled homeless man holding a sign asking for financial help. The sign included a hand-written statement advertising his radio voice. The reporter took a chance, gave the man some money, and asked him to give an example of his voice. He caught it all on camera. Today, than ONE video has been viewed 20 MILLION times around the world. Within days, the homeless man was flooded with job offers, financial aid, requests for interviews, and appeared live on the Today show with Matt Lauer. And then the bottom fell out. Not long after the media sensation … Continue reading

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Life is Simple ~ CHOICES

ShareLife is simple. When you wake up each day, think of this one. Attitude. Choices. Run with that! ~ Gusto If you’re having a tough day,  Read this..  LET IT REALLY SINK IN…….  THEN CHOOSE.  John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, ‘If I were any better, I would be twins!’  He was a natural motivator.  If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.  Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, … Continue reading

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You Can Too!

Share“You can too!” The first 13 years of my life were fairly normal; a farm boy living in a small town doing the things farm boys do, working, playing, going to school, church, participating in sports. That ENDED shortly before my 14th birthday. As I looked down at my mother’s near lifeless body, which was force-ably ejected after a head-on collision with another vehicle, I knew right then the life I once loved was gone. I was the first one on the scene. If it wasn’t for that hill that obscured the view of the collision, I would have seen it with my own eyes. But boy, did I hear it. That sound, the smell in the air, is as vivid today as it was … Continue reading

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You Are the Narrator of Your Life

ShareRecently a good friend of mine, Laura Barrette Shannon, author of “Be Happy Now, Simple Steps for Enjoying Life”, and page owner of the same name, shared something on her Facebook page that hit home in so many ways. It was one of those “moments” that come along rarely, an opportunity to view life as it really is, right NOW, right here, in “this moment.” So I’d like to share it with you, since I’m fairly certain it will resonate for you in the same way it did for me. There’s really nothing I could add to this since her words are as if they were my own, words that describe how I view MY life today, after so many years of negative “self-talk”, “self-worth” … Continue reading

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“Gusto” Turns Two….The Journey Continues

ShareApril 9th, 2010. It’s 2:30 a.m. and I can’t sleep. I’ve been back in California less than a month, and already, life is changing rapidly. Recent events, some quite painful, are causing a major shift in my perspective. As I sit there alone in the darkness, something occurs in me that will change my life forever. Turning on the kitchen light, I sit down in front of my computer and start searching on the internet. For what, I’m not sure. But within moments, I soon find out. During this moment of despair and heartache, my mind takes me back to when I was a little boy growing up on a farm on the plains of Western Kansas. As the only boy out of 6 children … Continue reading

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It’s Not How They Die….It’s How They LIVED

ShareThe following article was shared with me via email by a friend of mine. It moved me much as it did for my friend, so I’m sharing it here with all of you. My opinion? If I would have had the opportunity to speak with my Mother before she died, I’m convinced it would have been about “family.” No more. No less. Because those are the ties that bind each of us, the bedrock upon which we build our lives thereafter, and all the relationships we develop, nurture, and enjoy during our time here on this planet. ~ Gusto Kerry Egan is a hospice chaplain in Massachusetts and the author of “Fumbling: A Pilgrimage Tale of Love, Grief, and Spiritual Renewal on the Camino de … Continue reading

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Shattered Glass

ShareThe “past.” It always seems to never go away, does it? As hard as we try to forget certain events in our life, we’re never able to shake them. Nor should we even try. They’re an inevitable part of the make-up of who we are today. Good or bad, they’re with us forever. Acceptance of that truth is a key component to our emotional well-being. Last night I had a dream, or rather a nightmare of events that occurred about ten years ago. That was a time of self-indulgence, denial, anger, and chaos. Like most of us, I immediately woke up, startled by how vivid the nightmare was, secretly hoping when I went back to sleep, it wouldn’t continue. But it did. So I woke … Continue reading

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Why Do We Struggle?

ShareWhy do some of us seem afflicted with nothing but pain and hardship in life while others seem to be on easy street? Why do some of us struggle with life issues while others seem to always find a way to keep moving forward in a positive light? I’ve written here before about a topic and phrase entitled “acceptance is the answer.” Some of you reading this know the source from which that phrase originated. And though some may believe it’s designed only for those who are following diligent “steps” in their path of self-recovery, I’ve maintained for some time that phrase applies to all of us, regardless of our particular circumstances or misfortunes. That book is about life. “Acceptance is the answer to all … Continue reading

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The Joshua Tree – Part III – NEW Beginnings

ShareLess than 24 hours after leaving San Diego, bound for the desert to clear my head and reconnect with the inner spirit guiding me there, I awoke at 5:30 a.m. It was February 26th, 2012, exactly one year to the day when I’d done the same thing. (A recap of that story may be read by clicking > HERE.) The room I’d rented for the night at the Best Western in Yucca Valley, CA. was less than a half-hour drive back to Joshua Tree National Park. I didn’t have much time. The sun would be rising soon, so I loaded up on coffee, water, and a few things to eat. Batteries were fully charged on both my cell phone and my digital camera. It was … Continue reading

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The Joshua Tree – Part I

ShareFriday, February 24th, 2012. Awoke at 5 a.m., the usual time. Walked outside to get the morning paper in the driveway. It was still dark and as I opened the gate, I heard him, softly cooing not far away in the quiet neighborhood where I lived. It was a Mourning Dove. For reasons unknown, it suddenly occurred to me, this was the same dove I’d been hearing the day before and the weeks before that. Every day. But why did I “hear” him today, and not all the others? As I went back inside, memories of my home state of Kansas came flooding back. Why? Because Mourning Doves are prevalent there. However, the last thing I expected was to hear one in San Diego, CA. … Continue reading

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Failure Beats Never Trying

ShareA couple hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. Never leave that till tomorrow, he said, which you can do today. This is the man who discovered electricity. You think more people would listen to what he had to say. I don’t know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, I’d have to say that it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, sometimes, the fear is just of making a decision, because what if you’re wrong? What if you’re making a mistake that you can’t undo? The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can’t pretend we … Continue reading

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You Know That Feeling….?

ShareYou know that feeling when you’re just waiting, waiting to get home into your room, close the door, fall into bed, and just let everything out that you kept in all day, that feeling of both relief and desperation? Nothing is wrong, but nothing is right either, and you’re tired, tired of everything, tired of nothing, and you just want someone to be there and tell you it’s okay, but no one’s going to be there, and you know you have to be strong for yourself, because no one can fix you. But you’re tired of waiting, tired of having to be the one to fix yourself and everyone else, tired of being strong, and for once, you just want it to be easy, to … Continue reading

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“Daddy’s Day” ~ by Cheryl Costello-Forshey

ShareHer hair was up in a pony tail, her favorite dress tied with a bow. Today was Daddy’s Day at school, and she couldn’t wait to go. But her mommy tried to tell her, that she probably should stay home. Why the kids might not understand, if she went to school alone. But she was not afraid; she knew just what to say. What to tell her classmates of why he wasn’t there today. But still her mother worried, for her to face this day alone. And that was why once again, she tried to keep her daughter home. But the little girl went to school eager to tell them all. About a dad she never sees. A dad who never calls. There were daddies … Continue reading

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“Hello? Anyone Home?”

ShareIt’s all become clear to me now. I’ve been wondering why. Now I know. Nearly 3 years ago, shortly before this “feeling” started coming over me, I somehow knew something was about to happen in my life. Something BIG. Something miraculous. Something….INSPIRING. And then I set foot upon that beach near Encinitas, CA. in December, 2009 and took a photograph of a scene that will be forever embedded in my mind. A scene that screamed FREEDOM. A scene that, as I gazed out at the vast expanse of the Pacific ocean, as I gazed at the dozens and dozens of seagulls standing in front of me in full view, I had no idea what it all meant. Before long, I would. And so the day soon … Continue reading

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Reasons, Seasons, or Lifetime

ShareOne of the most difficult parts of our lives is dealing with relationships. Whether it’s family, friends, co-workers, or intimate, there will be times in our life when our faith is severely tested. Think of those relationships in your past when something beautiful came along and, for whatever reason, it ended. It may have been the death of a family member or loved one. Your first boyfriend/girlfriend or marriage. A co-worker who turned their back on you. Someone whom you thought was a friend, only to learn that they were just using you. However you wish to describe those moments, they all involve a form of grieving. The pain, heartbreak, and the bitterness you felt. As for me, my first experience was in the death … Continue reading

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Welcome to the NEW Gusto Ramblings!

Gus Rowe

ShareHi! I’m excited to Welcome you to the NEW “Gusto Ramblings” website! Nearly 2 years ago, April 9th, 2010 to be exact, I awoke early one morning and a thought occurred to me; “You’ve got so much inside that you want to express, so many experiences you wish to share and the lessons you’ve gained from them, why not start your own website? A platform by which you might inspire others?” I had reached a point in my life that I knew I needed an outlet. Up until then, I was merely sharing some of my musings and thoughts on my personal Facebook page, a forum I had joined in early 2009, after suffering a rapid series of tragic events beginning in mid-2007 until June 2008. … Continue reading

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“Carried Away….”

Share   This one’s been around awhile, and there’s some question to its origin or even its validity, but irrespective of that, it’s food for thought. Cherish your loved ones, even when times are bad, even when things are at their worst, for we never know what tomorrow may bring…. ~ Gusto When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by … Continue reading

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~ “TEBOW” ~

Share He’s one of the most polarizing figures in America, a football player who shows no fear in professing his religious beliefs. But more on him in a moment. First, I want to share a story with you, one it is hoped you will see the connection between it and the other subject of this chapter when you’re finished reading. The message came through my cell phone on New Year’s Eve 2011 from a young lady in Indiana (the name will be Jane Doe for privacy reasons); “Gus, this is Jane. I apologize for intruding in your personal space. I’m in need of your home address. If you’re not comfortable giving it to me, I’ll understand. I just wasn’t sure if the address on your … Continue reading

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Happy NEW Year!

Share As another year rolls to a close during this journey called “life”, most of us take time to look back and reflect on what happened in our lives over the previous 12 months; our triumphs, failures, the glories of success, the beginnings of something “new”, whether it was a job, a relationship, new surroundings, marriage, divorce, birth, and even death. And most of us look forward to the “New Year” full of promise and hope, thankful that we even made it this far. I’m no exception. What you’re about to read is REAL. It’s also going to be somewhat graphic, dark, but I’m convinced by the end, you’ll be more inspired than ever that whatever your circumstances are, there’s always hope, there’s always light, … Continue reading

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“Montica”

Share   “Read this 5 times a day for 5 days. It will CHANGE your life.” Those words from her lips I can still hear as if it were just a moment ago. It was September, 2006. She was my substitute counselor that day, for just ONE day. Because, as fate would have it, my regular counselor, the one I’d been seeing every day for 3 weeks just “happened” to be gone that day. I was in a volunteer rehabilitation program, my first stint at trying to overcome a “cunning, baffling, and powerful disease.”   Life hasn’t been the same since. After that day, I noticed she was the LIFE of the program, a counselor who zipped from one meeting to another, always full of … Continue reading

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The “Misfits” vs. The “Teflon” Peeps

Share Homeless Man at Moonlight Beach, Encinitas, CA. – October 2011 Have you ever stopped and wondered, maybe some people are destined to walk through life alone, while others seem to always have an easier road to follow? The misfits, the square pegs in the round holes, the outcasts, they never seem to “fit in.” They may be successful, or they may have been successful at one point in their life. They’ve loved and lost, experienced tragedy, pain, or heart-breaking loss of some kind in their life, many times more than once. They’re a “one-man show.” The others, the easy road people, are what I call teflon peeps. Nothing fazes them. They always seem to “come out smelling like a rose”, no matter what life … Continue reading

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Why Do We Struggle?

Share Gus, I want to thank you for the wonderful work that you do, to lift others up.  I just watched the 20 words to change your life and wow.  That was the icing on the cake.                                 I am a 63 year old woman from a very dysfunctional background, severely abused as a child and adult, low self-esteem, much illness, breast cancer survivor, head injury survivor, disabled, broke, worried about my future, and you lift me up every day.  Right now my living conditions are just above being homeless, I worked all my life but am disabled with no savings.  I had to reverse mortgage my home to stay in it and to help a relative who was nasty and let me down afterwards, … Continue reading

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