Category Archives: Tragedy

Back On My Feet Again

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The Homeless

Share She was sitting in one of her usual “spots” at the Encinitas, CA. library today, removed from view mostly, sitting near a window with a view of the Pacific Ocean to the west, surrounded by her plastic bags stuffed full of God knows what. She also had her backpack next to her and was busy stuffing wads of newspaper in it. For what reason, I don’t know. Honestly, it didn’t matter. All I know is I just wanted to talk with her. She had just stood up when I walked up. I said, “Excuse me, may I have a moment of your time?” She glanced at me briefly, mumbled something, waved me off, and walked away, leaving her bags sitting there. As she turned, … Continue reading

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A Box Called HOPE

Share Last June, I wrote a piece entitled “Inspiration/Hope and Two Young Men.” In that particular piece, I described a story of a young man I met one night in Liberal, Kansas in March, 2010. For those who haven’t read it, I’ll give you a short summary. The young man had just caught his first DUI and was sentenced to attend an intensive in-patient rehabilitation program. The night I met him was his first day there and the look in his eyes is one I’ll never forget. You know the one, the “deer in the headlight” look. He was scared. Later, as the group members were discussing their individual plights, I clearly remember this young man’s story. Since he was new, hesitant, and fearful, it … Continue reading

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Moving On

Share Imagine you’re on a 10-speed bicycle. You’re on a two-lane highway near a small town in Southwest Kansas. It’s summer, sometime in July 2009, it’s 6 p.m. and the temperature is still near 100 degrees. There’s little traffic, the road is flat, with a slight breeze in your face. Your pedaling at medium-speed, sweating profusely, and listening to classic rock on your headphones. Then it happens. “Your” song comes on, “Freebird” by the legendary group Lynyrd Skynrd. That’s when you “kick it” into high gear and pedal as fast and hard as you can all the way through the song. Your mind and legs are in rhythm with the music and AT THAT MOMENT, you forget how hot it is, how stiff the wind … Continue reading

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Grieving is Living

Share If you’ve read my blog, then you know the primary purpose is an attempt to inspire others through sharing some of my own life experiences, as well as hopefully gaining some inspiration from others. This particular post may not “fit” that definition per se, but it’s one that I hope will give you an insight into the “grieving” process we all experience at some point in our lives. Before I begin however, I want to state unequivocally that I am neither a trained counselor nor do I propose to be. On the other hand, I would suggest that people like myself, people who have experienced this emotion first-hand, may be able to offer a unique perspective to this topic, unlike those of us who … Continue reading

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Divine Intervention

Share Back in September 2010, I wrote a blog post entitled “I Can’t”. For those of you who have read this particular piece, then you know it was one widely commented on and one of the most viewed stories so far in “Ramblings.” Of course, the main message was what we are capable of as human beings when faced with tragedy or life-altering experiences. One of the stories I mentioned in that post was one that goes back nearly 35 years, a story of three young men whose lives were changed forever by an auto accident in Kansas in 1976. One where I was driving and two friends from California who happened to stop that summer night in Tribune, Kansas, my hometown, and who were … Continue reading

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Pay It Forward – Calling All Angels

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Rehabilitation? Or Retribution?

ShareEvery now and then something occurs that stirs our passion so much that it takes on an identity by itself. This particular topic brings that passion forth within me with a vengeance and though I will do my best to remain objective and avoid appearing self-serving, it remains a difficult task. I would therefore ask for your patience and indulgence in that regard because of my own very personal and life-altering experience with a subject that is naturally controversial by its very existence in our world. Please also keep in mind that one of the goals with this blog is to give it a “personal touch”, so that its readers can make some sort of connection between the subject matter and their daily lives. Recently, … Continue reading

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Change Starts From Within – YOU Have the Power!

ShareStarting well over a year ago, people, both friends and casual acquaintances alike, began saying things such as, “The way you speak and write…it sounds like you’re a preacher or something.” Funny thing about that statement. I’ve heard it so many times I began to ask myself the same question. “Who am I and why do I come off like this?” It all started innocently enough. I began sharing some of my thoughts and what I’ve learned through this process of recovery and self-improvement in the form of “notes” on Facebook. Slowly, people began to respond beginning in the summer and fall of 2009. I want to emphasize this point, however; I am neither a preacher nor do I wish to be. Anyone who knows … Continue reading

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A Tribute to “Mom”

Share     Everyone loves their Mom and think their mother is the best Mom in the world. Of course, that isn’t true. MY MOM was the best Mom in the world! Seriously, this tribute to my Mom comes over 38 years after her death due to a tragic farm vehicle accident when I was only 13. Unlike the tribute I wrote about my Dad, who turned 80 earlier this year, my memories of my Mom aren’t nearly as extensive. But, in that short amount of time while she was with us here on Earth, she made her presence felt and her memory still lingers in the hearts of not only myself and my family, but also many who knew her. Even today, nearly FOUR decades after her death, people … Continue reading

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Judgment, Compassion, & Common Sense

ShareRecently, a 14-year old girl made headline news in northern San Diego County when she claimed she was abducted in broad daylight by three men, shoved into their car, raped, and then returned to the very area where she was abducted. She returned home to her parents, told them the story, and they called the police. She gave a detailed description of the men and the manhunt was on. This incident happened within 3 miles where I live, at the high school where I drop my 17-year old niece off every day. My sister, like nearly every other parent in the area, was extremely upset and of course, she cautioned her daughter on how to avoid something like this happening to her. What happened next … Continue reading

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Freedom

Share September 26, 2008. Day 114 at the Holliday Inn. 116 miles of walking logged so far, 5,775 sit-ups, and 2,020 pushups. By now, the routine is clear. Up at 6:00 a.m. with my plastic bowl and plastic spoon waiting to hear the familiar rattle of keys. First one door, then another, and finally, one more. And there stands one of Doc Holliday’s deputies with morning breakfast; a gallon jug of milk in one hand and a box of cold cereal in the other. Frosted mini-wheats. Every day. Each of us in the “bullpen” stick our little plastic bowls through the “bean hole” to get our breakfast. We sit silently at the steel bench and table and eat, the same place where we play cards, … Continue reading

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Just Be Yourself

Share“Just be yourself.” How many times have all of us heard that one? Think of the times you’ve heard it yourself; a job interview, meeting someone for the first time, a school play, or any time you’ve had to speak in front of others, regardless of who or how many people are around. I’m sure simply hearing those three words causes stomach knots for some of us. Question is, why? Why do people say that to begin with and why does it bother some of us, while there are others who have no problem with it at all? I think the answer lies not in what others think of us but how we feel about ourselves. If the foundation of our soul is based on … Continue reading

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“I Can’t”

ShareI Can’t. I can’t do that, I can’t do this. I can’t stop drinking. Can you stop laughing? Do you WANT to? If there’s two words in the English language when, put together, have more of a negative impact on our lives, these two would be it. But think about the end of that first sentence I just wrote. Ever hear somebody say, “I can’t stop laughing!” when they’ve heard something really funny? Do they WANT to, is the question. Same goes the other way around. Don’t say I can’t; say I WANT to get A’s. I WANT to stop spending so much money. I WANT a happy marriage and I WANT a happy life. When I was a junior in high school, I spent … Continue reading

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Perfection

ShareShakespeare said, “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” He forgot to mention that I was the chief critic. I was always able to see the flaw in every person, every situation. And I was always glad to point it out, because I knew you wanted perfection, just as I did. A.A. and acceptance have taught me that there is a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best of us; that we are all children of God and we each have a right to be here. When I complain about me or about you, I am complaining about God’s handiwork. I am saying that I know better than God. What … Continue reading

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The Power of God & Prayer

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“P L A U G E S”

ShareI remember when I first thought of this acronym. It was about a year ago when I was encountering a lot of anger and resentments from family members about past issues. I could never remember the 7 deadly sins and this acronym helps me to remember them: “PLAUGES” = Pride, Lust, Anger, Gluttony, Greed, Envy, and Sloth. I had to fudge on the U, substituting gluttony instead! When I think of those words though, there’s 2 more that I think should be included as “deadly sins”, fears and resentments. When you look at your own life, ask yourself these questions. When is it when you feel like you’re losing control over your life? What do you FEEL when you don’t have control? And what is … Continue reading

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The Power of Prayer and Doing The “Right” Thing

ShareThe power of prayer and doing the “right” thing. Two nights ago, I posted a song called “Daughters” by John Mayer on my Facebook page. Daughters is one of my favorites of his because the lyrics and the message he brings carry deep meaning for my own feelings about my daughter. But there was another reason. Shortly after I arrived in San Diego in late March of this year, I learned that John would be playing live at the Cricket Amphitheater in San Diego in August, so I quickly bought 4 tickets to go see him. At the time I bought them, I had NO idea what was about to happen several months later. In late June, my daughter told me she was planning on … Continue reading

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Does God Give You Only What You Can Handle?

ShareTwo weeks ago, I had the good fortune and opportunity to meet and visit with a lady in San Diego County who is a professional counselor, one who has been in this profession, as well as teaching, for many years. This meeting came at the suggestion of someone special in my life, a woman I met recently, though we both feel like we have known each other much longer. Since that time, she and I have discovered we have many mutual interests and she’s one of those people that have just “happened” to appear in my life like so many others over the past two years, though this is very different. Where this relationship is headed I’m not really sure. I do know this; she … Continue reading

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An Awakening

ShareI remember the first time I heard someone say, “I don’t know when it happened, where it happened, or even why. And I really don’t care to know. It just is and life just gets better and better every day.” I was attending an AA meeting in Liberal, KS. in the fall of 2008 when I first heard that. At the time, I didn’t think much of it. To me, they were just words. The gentleman who uttered these words had been sober for over five years. But then later, as I attended numerous meetings with this same individual present, he continued to repeat it. And then I heard more people echo the same thoughts over the next few months. I thought, this is weird. … Continue reading

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Inspiration/Hope & Two Young Men

ShareWhere do I start with this one? Hmmm…in just the past couple of days, I noticed there was a new “fan” on the Gusto page I created on Facebook, a young man who lived right next door to me in Elkhart, KS. I think he’s around 17 and his father has a very successful construction business in S.W. Kansas, doing all kinds of work including home and commercial buildings. His mother is a teacher at the local school district and she knew my children well when they lived there in the ’05-’06 school year. For the sake of privacy, I will call this young man “Rex.” When I saw that he joined, I sent him a private message on facebook thanking him and this was … Continue reading

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People Who Inspire – Part III

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People Who Inspire – Part II

Share I have a facebook friend who has someone in her life very very special. In the interests of privacy though, I will be using fictitious names with this story. It’s a story that gives me inspiration and it is my hope it does the same for you. First though, allow me to give you a little background on “Jane.” I became “friends” with Jane on facebook about a year ago. She was involved in threads with a mutual friend of ours, a man I went to high school with here in SoCal over 30 years ago. She and him had been friends outside of the facebook world for some time, I believe it was when he was once working and living in the L.A. … Continue reading

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“PASSION”

ShareWhat is your passion? What drives you to do what you do in life? What is it that stirs your blood, the fire in your soul, that which motivates you most about LIFE? Mine can be traced in to shortly after I got out of the “Holliday Inn” in Elkhart. After being imprisoned for 158 days of acts of my own doing and will, it was time to re-evaluate what is important about life. Today, nearly 2 years later, I’m driven by a number of things, not the least of which is getting everything I can out of life; sharing of my experiences with others, and not just of the last 2 years, but of a lifetime of hard work, education, and professional experiences when … Continue reading

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“The Bullpen”

ShareWelcome. I wish to make clear a couple of things about this one. First, it is NOT intended to be self-serving, to ask for anyone’s sympathy or approval, or to influence you in any way, with respect to how you might react or wish to share with others. It’s your choice and I have no qualms or reservations with anyone wishing to make comments, either directly to me or with others. In fact, I encourage it! This blog is an “open forum”, if you want to comment anonymously, you may. I have no fear of the truth. Secondly, I know it’s contrary to the purpose of this blog, given the fact I’ve said it’s about “us” and all but I have my reasons. Maybe some of it’s therapeutic and … Continue reading

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