I’d like to ask you a question. First though, stop whatever you’re doing, empty your thoughts, then visualize this scene in your head.
Think of key moments in your past that impacted your life so profoundly you can’t imagine what your life would be like today, right now, without them. What happened? What was that “moment” you saw in your head just now? Was there someone else in that scene? Someone who was a part of that moment either directly or indirectly?
That moment could have been a negative event or it could have been a positive one. Doesn’t matter. Because either way, it changed your destiny.
That’s where I am right now. Again! Yet another ending, another moment when destiny switched and something happened out of NOWHERE I didn’t see coming, expected, or planned on. Know what I mean? A new beginning.
Okay, that’s it. The scene is over. We, you and I, are here. Now go with me on this, we’re not done yet!
I’m moving. I’m leaving California. I’m going to a place I never dreamed of. Another ending to a new beginning. Story of my life. One right after another; my Mom’s tragic death I witnessed at the tender age of 13, my Dad shipping me to California in 1975 when I was 16 to finish high school. Getting my college degree in 1982, almost entirely on my own. First job out of college for a finance company, arriving at the Great Falls, Montana airport on a bitterly cold night in January 1983, with nothing more than a couple of suitcases, no car, but a whole lot of will. Migrating back to my beloved home state of Kansas in 1985, the little town where I grew up and where, over the next 20 years, was home again. Banker, farmer, married, fathered two children, went thru a bitter divorce then fell into the depths of depression and alcohol abuse. The last one nearly killed me.
Literally and figuratively, it nearly did. Twice. Yet that moment too, just like all the others, led to opportunities. Another chance. Another step. Another door.
Doesn’t matter who you are, what your circumstances are, rich or poor, riddled with heartbreak, pain, or grief of any kind, whether you’re on top of the world right now or the bottom, everyone comes to a point in their life when change occurs. Something happens. Something totally unexpected. Something that will leaving a lasting and positive impression. You either grab it, hold on tight, take risks, or stay stuck.
Choices. That’s all life boils down to at moments like those. Sink or swim. Those who succeed embrace moments like those, because in reality, you have no choice but to!
Six months ago though, life was not looking good. Everything I tried seemed to fail. Since March 2010, after nearly 3 years back in California, one 18 month relationship gone, two part-time jobs that didn’t work out, an attempt to start my own Life Coaching/Mentoring venture which had limited success, I was at the end. I was staring at the prospect of homelessness.
And yet during this entire period, I kept getting phone calls from the same individual, checking on me, little rap sessions. He and I have known each other for 37 years, yet we haven’t seen each other face to face for over 30 years. We were best friends in high school. He the classic Southern California native, blond-haired, athletic surfer type. Me, the farm boy from Kansas. The “Odd Couple.”
But one day this past December, during another one of our phone convos, he said “Gus? I’ve been thinking about your situation and mine. You know I’m over here trying to save my home. It dawned on me with your background in law and banking, I could use your help.”
The rest is history. Five months later, we’re still trying to save his home. He’s paid me a fair wage. But now the company he works for has offered an administrative position across the pond. Isn’t much to start with $ wise, but they’ll provide housing at no cost to boot. Serendipity!
See? That’s how it works. No one can go back and start over, but anyone can start NOW and make a brand New Ending. Never give up. Ever!!
So I’m grabbing my flippers, maybe even a snorkel. See you in the land of Aloha, west Maui in a little town called Lahaina overlooking the Pacific less than 30 days from now!