Life. How it works.

ShareI’d like to ask you a question. First though, stop whatever you’re doing, empty your thoughts, then visualize this scene in your head. Think of key moments in your past that impacted your life so profoundly you can’t imagine what your life would be like today, right now, without them. What happened? What was that “moment” you saw in your head just now? Was there someone else in that scene? Someone who was a part of that moment either directly or indirectly? That moment could have been a negative event or it could have been a positive one. Doesn’t matter. Because either way, it changed your destiny. That’s where I am right now. Again! Yet another ending, another moment when destiny switched and something happened … Continue reading

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ShareThe purpose in life is not what we can take from it, but what we give to it, especially each other. So I’m GIVING this to you; Not long ago, a man travelled a far distance to help one of his sisters tend to their father who had undergone a radical surgery. A few days after arriving, he met someone for the first time. It was his great niece, not quite 3 years old at the time. Early one morning, while he was staying at the home of his sister where his great niece was visiting her grandmother, he was working at his computer in a room near the bedroom where his great niece lay sleeping. He heard a sound, he turned, and there she was. She’d … Continue reading

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Felix Baumgartner ~ The “Sky Diver”

Share“Felix Baumgartner”, going and DOING what no human being has ever done. It’s one I’ve been thinking about writing about, it’s not the records, and sure millions of dollars were poured into this, and yes, it was just one man, one soul, just like you and I. But seriously, if ONE man, ONE human being is able to summon this much faith and courage to JUMP, then why can’t we? Why can’t we down here on Earth, struggling every day, trying to survive, just “making do”, why can’t we? I say YES!! If people would stop and think about it for a moment, maybe in some weird way he DID change “the world’s problems.” We spend so much energy focusing on what’s wrong, we lose … Continue reading

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You are Loved

Sharevia Neale Donald Walsch; “On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know… …that enthusiasm is half of the journey to success, and all of the journey to joy. If you’re going to do something, do it with gusto. Don’t do anything half-heartedly. That dishonors the doing and the doer. So go for it. Hold nothing back. In life. Or love. Or anything at all. You will not have to think but a second to know exactly why you received this message today. Trust that your inner goodness will rule this moment…” ~ Neale Donald Walsch “You are loved and cherished, dearly, forever.” “You have nothing to fear.” “There is nothing you can do wrong.” ~ unknown

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Hey You

ShareHey you. Yea you. You know who you are. I want to thank you for this day you’ve given and shared with me. We talk a lot, you and I. Help me to continue understanding and loving you better. Thank you for bringing people into my life who care. People of substance and character. Thank you for allowing me to see it’s never about me and always about others. Thank you for the comfort of knowing I’m not alone, that others have struggles far worse than I. We have families to care for, bills to pay, we do the best we can. Please keep bringing others into my life who lift my spirits, who bring out the best in me, and I in them. We … Continue reading

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Successful Relationships

Share“Relationships.” Wow, if there’s one word, one topic that’s on a lot of people’s minds these days, this would be it. As a writer and mentor, owner of a Facebook page called Go for the Gusto, and owner of a website that focuses on helping others, it never ceases to amaze me how hot this topic is. Over the past 2 ½ years since I created these two means of communication in the social media world, countless private consultations via phone and email in my role as a mentor/life coach, and many times just as a friend and fellow human being, it leaves little doubt this topic will continue to be on the front burner. This is particularly so for those of us over the … Continue reading

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Dog’s Purpose ~ From a 6 Year Old

ShareBeing a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog’s owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn’t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home. As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure as they felt that Shane might learn something from the experience. The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker’s family surrounded him. Shane seemed … Continue reading

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Don’t Quit….Never Give Up

ShareEvery once in awhile,  someone we know says something that catches our attention in a way that moves our soul. Today is one of those for me, and perhaps these thoughts and words from the heart of a fellow human being may touch yours; “Everywhere I turn, I see and hear people relaying messages of frustration and sadness. I currently have friends fighting the fight of their lives with cancer and other ailments. I have friends who are going through the pains of loss in relationships, friendships, work, self esteem and so much more. So it got me thinking… again. Sometimes it’s really hard to remember this. Harder for some of us than others, and especially hard for me at times. For as we grow … Continue reading

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Wisdom of the Soul

Share         WISDOM OF THE SOUL 1. No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission. 2. Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be. 3. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently. 4. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have. 5. Success stops when you do. 6. When your ship comes in. … make sure you are willing to unload it. 7. You will never “have it all together.” 8. Life is a journey… not a destination. Enjoy the trip! 9. The biggest lie on the planet: “When I get what I want I will be happy.” 10. The best way to escape your problem is … Continue reading

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‘You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married’: Lessons for Marriage, Learned from Divorce

ShareWe think about divorce in terms of “failed” marriages, but author and filmmaker Dana Adam Shapiro’s new book is a reminder that often our best shot at finding lasting love comes from the personal growth that occurs in the aftermath of a painful break-up. Over about four years, Shapiro, whose documentary bv Murderball was nominated for an Academy Award, traveled across the country interviewing hundreds of people who had survived a tough divorce and published many of their stories in the collection ‘You Can Be Right (Or You Can Be Married).’ Related: Dana Adams Shapiro’s Filmography on Yahoo! Movies When Shapiro, now 38, hit his mid-30s, he witnessed many of his friends’ marriages start to fall apart and wondered why. At the same time, he hadn’t been able to sustain … Continue reading

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ShareEvery once in awhile, something appears that gets our attention. Something that unites us as a race of human beings,  regardless of what part of the world we live in,  our color, our religious beliefs, our gender, or social status, or what have you. This is one of those “moments”, something I read today on a personal friend’s Facebook page. Here is an amazing story from a flight attendant on Delta Flight 15, written following 9-11 & fact checked today: “On the morning of Tuesday, September 11, we were about 5 hours out of Frankfurt, flying over the North Atlantic. All of a sudden the curtains parted and I was told to go to the cockpit, immediately, to see the captain. As soon as I … Continue reading

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Share1) Disappointment comes from expectation 2) Most relationship problems come from expectations So, I decided to try an experiment. To have a relationship with NO EXPECTATIONS. It’s hard, but possible. It sounded impossible when I thought of it, but it is in fact possible. Hopes are ok. Wants are ok. But expectation is out. Expect nothing of no one, and you will never be disappointed. Remember, this is in RELATIONSHIPS. Different rules for other situations. Expectations from yourself are a double-edged sword. They help you stay focused and achieve your goals, but can also lead to self-disappointment – possibly crippling disappointment. You have to learn that in your own life, you will make mistakes and will fail to achieve some objectives. The trick is to … Continue reading

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5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage: Revealed by Divorce

ShareIn 25 years of studying marriage, Dr. Terri Orbuch, research professor at the University of Michigan and author of the new book “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship,” has found that some of the best relationship advice comes from people who are actually divorced. WATCH: Is this the Most Epic Marriage Proposal? In 1986, Orbuch embarked on a long-term study, supported by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), which followed the relationships of 373 newlyweds. By 2012, 46% had divorced, about the same as the national average. In interviews with Orbuch, people who had divorced or ended a serious relationship over and over again brought up the same five issues that they would improve if they had the chance … Continue reading

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An Undying Passion

ShareThere’s a lot of life coaches “out there” offering you their services. Most of them I’m guessing have learned their craft through programs designed for coaches. Programs created specifically to “teach” them techniques they can utilize to help you. Of course, there’s no doubt many tap into their own life experiences as well. But in the end, at least from what I’ve seen, they’re students passing along what they’ve learned from a program that “certified” them as a “life coach.” What makes a good doctor? What makes a good lawyer? For that matter, how does one define a good mother? Did she get a certificate that made her so? No. She learned it on the job. From the moment her child was born, she acted … Continue reading

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How to Love a Woman

ShareOnce in awhile, while we’re online, we stumble upon something that’s priceless. This is a masterpiece written by Terri Plewa, an astrologer, heartcoach, and writer. It’s a jewel worth savoring and saving here on this website for posterity. It’ll move you and touch you, that’s a virtual guarantee. And as I read it, me being “tuned in”, as it were, it brought a song to mind by Bryan Adams, included below. … Here’s to LOVING a woman how she’s meant to be loved. ~ Gusto A woman is not to be invaded. She is not to be questioned or conquered. This has been said a million times. Let’s say it a million and one. She is to be loved. That’s it. It sounds so simple It’s simple, … Continue reading

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Feed the Right Emotion ~ John Maxwell

ShareFEED THE RIGHT EMOTION In life, both faith and fear will arise within you, and you will choose which one will prevail. Someone once wrote; Two natures beat within my breast, The one is foul, the other blessed. The one I love, the other I hate; The one I feed will dominate. The thing is, both of those emotions will always be present in you. The emotion you continually feed is the one that will dominate your life. You can’t expect fear simply to disappear. If you continually focus on your fears, entertain them, and give in to them, they will increase. The way to ultimately overcome them is to starve them. Don’t give your fears any of your time or energy. Don’t feed them … Continue reading

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Are We On Information Overload?

ShareYou want something and know what it is? You go get it. You need something but are unsure? You go “online.” You “google it.” You surf. You visit endless sites. You go on Facebook even. Your computer and cell phone browser histories are teeming with data. Pretty soon you’re in “information overload land”, lost in a sea of confusion more than ever, along with millions of others just like you. What is the secret to “happiness?” Is it money? Is it the perfect mate? Is it a cure for whatever health issue ails you or your loved one? The job where your boss thinks you’re simply invaluable, irreplaceable, and will do anything to keep you? The problem isn’t that we have problems. The problem is … Continue reading

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Eckhart Tolle ~ New Earth

Share“As the new consciousness emerges, some people will feel called upon to form groups that reflect the enlightened consciousness. Dissolving the human ego by bringing it into the light of awareness–this will be one of the main purposes of these groups, whether they be enlightened businesses, charitable organizations, schools, or communities of people living together. Enlightened collectives can be a vortex for consciousness that will accelerate the planetary shift.”~ Eckhart Tolle “A New Earth is one of the most profound pieces of work ever written.  No matter how many times I immerse myself in these teachings, I hear things I’ve never heard before or hear things in a different way. 😉 This piece on collective ego is profound… where Tolle talks about large groups that … Continue reading

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Learn to Let Go

ShareMany have asked; “How do I let go? Why is that so hard?” Perhaps we try too hard, we over-analyze, trying to “figure it all out.” We’re too hard on ourselves. Many times it’s not the attachment that causes us pain. It’s detachment that hurts. The following article as seen in McWilliams – Life 101 can also be viewed HERE. I don’t want the cheese, I just want to get out of the trap. SPANISH PROVERB How does one avoid loss in the first place? Contrary to popular belief, it’s not attachment that causes loss–attachment feels fine. It’s detachment that hurts. Learn to let go. Some suggest that to avoid loss, one should never be attached to anything. They give the example of a hand in water: when … Continue reading

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Ted Williams – “The Man With The Golden Voice”

ShareHe came bursting into our living rooms, on our computers, and on our cell phones. It was January, 2011, and a roving news reporter with a camera noticed a disheveled homeless man holding a sign asking for financial help. The sign included a hand-written statement advertising his radio voice. The reporter took a chance, gave the man some money, and asked him to give an example of his voice. He caught it all on camera. Today, than ONE video has been viewed 20 MILLION times around the world. Within days, the homeless man was flooded with job offers, financial aid, requests for interviews, and appeared live on the Today show with Matt Lauer. And then the bottom fell out. Not long after the media sensation … Continue reading

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Life is Simple ~ CHOICES

ShareLife is simple. When you wake up each day, think of this one. Attitude. Choices. Run with that! ~ Gusto If you’re having a tough day,  Read this..  LET IT REALLY SINK IN…….  THEN CHOOSE.  John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, ‘If I were any better, I would be twins!’  He was a natural motivator.  If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.  Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, … Continue reading

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Are We Hardwired for Kindness? (Dennis Merritt Jones)

ShareThe following article, taken in it’s entirety in original form from the Huffington Post, was written by a friend of mine, Mr. Dennis Merritt Jones, Award-winning author, Keynote speaker, and spiritual mentor. Some of you may recall one of his articles I shared awhile back called “The Spiritual Side of Facebook”, which you may read by clicking HERE. To view the content you see below on the Huffington Post, and to learn more about Dennis, click HERE. Below are Dennis’ thoughts about “Kindness.” ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I have recently been witnessing in my own life how powerful an act of kindness can be and how much fun it can be. I take my garbage cans out to the curb every Sunday night because the trash collectors come … Continue reading

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Choices…You’ve Got What it Takes

Share I won’t give up. Ever. It’s not my nature. From the last piece written here on this website, that much should be obvious to you by now. I won’t give up on you either. So where do we go from here? So much of that is beyond my control. All I can do is keep offering what I have to give. It comes from deep inside, a wealth of knowledge, love, and awareness of what it takes to overcome, to achieve, to keep going. Ask yourself, “Am I happy with my life as it is?” If the answer is no, then ask yourself “Why?” Do you even know? Do I have the answers? I’m not here to “fix.” I’m here to guide, to nurture, … Continue reading

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You Can Too!

Share“You can too!” The first 13 years of my life were fairly normal; a farm boy living in a small town doing the things farm boys do, working, playing, going to school, church, participating in sports. That ENDED shortly before my 14th birthday. As I looked down at my mother’s near lifeless body, which was force-ably ejected after a head-on collision with another vehicle, I knew right then the life I once loved was gone. I was the first one on the scene. If it wasn’t for that hill that obscured the view of the collision, I would have seen it with my own eyes. But boy, did I hear it. That sound, the smell in the air, is as vivid today as it was … Continue reading

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Love is a Moment That Lasts Forever

ShareThis is for all the guys out there. But since 85% of this page’s members are of female persuasion, feel free it to share with your “guy”, too. Hope this is something that resonates. Guys? When a woman says “I Love You”, she means it. That means more than treating her like a lady. Whether you’ve been with her a week, a month, or 50 years, make her feel like it’s your first date every day. Gaze into her eyes as if it’s the last time you’ll ever see her. When she cries, don’t try to stop her. Women do that. Cry with her if you have to. When she gets mad or yells at you, don’t yell back. Take it. After all, she’s the … Continue reading

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