So, I decided to try an experiment. To have a relationship with NO EXPECTATIONS.
It’s hard, but possible. It sounded impossible when I thought of it, but it is in fact possible.
Hopes are ok. Wants are ok. But expectation is out. Expect nothing of no one, and you will never be disappointed.
Remember, this is in RELATIONSHIPS. Different rules for other situations.
Expectations from yourself are a double-edged sword. They help you stay focused and achieve your goals, but can also lead to self-disappointment – possibly crippling disappointment. You have to learn that in your own life, you will make mistakes and will fail to achieve some objectives. The trick is to make goals for yourself that you can achieve (if others like you can do it, then you can do it too), but which are substantial enough that they are worth risking failure for.
Complicated? Yeah, and I’m not taking the time to explain it right. This is a complex question with few simple answers. In the end, it’s all about self-forgiveness for our shortfalls and acceptance that, whatever happens, it’s exactly the way it’s meant to be!!